Comments on: Birds of a feather flock together http://ihatestairs.org/birds-of-a-feather-flock-together/ In case of a fire, use the elevator. Quickly. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 19:43:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Ranter http://ihatestairs.org/birds-of-a-feather-flock-together/comment-page-1/#comment-86 Ranter Sun, 07 Sep 2008 16:58:23 +0000 http://ihatestairs.org/?p=100#comment-86 Interesting post. I have always had one or two disabled friends, but have also felt somewhat self-conscious at times about being seen out with just other disabled people. I, too, have wondered what other people think and if they think that all disabled people hang together, or that the only friends I have are disabled. I wonder if they see me as more disabled if I am with other disabled people. In fact, I think way too much ;). One of my disabled friends is deep in disability culture and most of her friends are disabled. And she strives to date someone with a disability, something I would never do. It's a bit of reverse-discrimination, I suppose. Here I am hoping to be treated like an equal and not be discriminated against, but please let me be around other non-disabled so I can appear less disabled, which is a bit messed up. Of course I'm not going to stop hanging out with my friends who are disabled, a good friend is a good friend. But somehow I strive towards friends without disabilities, because that'll prove that I've "made it", if that makes any sense. Not a healthy attitude, I admit, but real. Interesting post. I have always had one or two disabled friends, but have also felt somewhat self-conscious at times about being seen out with just other disabled people. I, too, have wondered what other people think and if they think that all disabled people hang together, or that the only friends I have are disabled. I wonder if they see me as more disabled if I am with other disabled people. In fact, I think way too much ;). One of my disabled friends is deep in disability culture and most of her friends are disabled. And she strives to date someone with a disability, something I would never do. It’s a bit of reverse-discrimination, I suppose. Here I am hoping to be treated like an equal and not be discriminated against, but please let me be around other non-disabled so I can appear less disabled, which is a bit messed up. Of course I’m not going to stop hanging out with my friends who are disabled, a good friend is a good friend. But somehow I strive towards friends without disabilities, because that’ll prove that I’ve “made it”, if that makes any sense. Not a healthy attitude, I admit, but real.

]]> By: Ivan http://ihatestairs.org/birds-of-a-feather-flock-together/comment-page-1/#comment-85 Ivan Sat, 06 Sep 2008 03:22:01 +0000 http://ihatestairs.org/?p=100#comment-85 It's kind of the same reason black students tend to gather together on college campuses, and same with students from the same foreign country, or same hometown, and things like that. Yes, you're exactly right. Disability culture does exist, at least to those who have disabilities. Others may or may not understand it to be a culture in its own right. It's nothing really to be uncomfortable about......imho Just a fact of our lives..... It’s kind of the same reason black students tend to gather together on college campuses, and same with students from the same foreign country, or same hometown, and things like that.

Yes, you’re exactly right. Disability culture does exist, at least to those who have disabilities. Others may or may not understand it to be a culture in its own right.

It’s nothing really to be uncomfortable about……imho

Just a fact of our lives…..

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